Going from Shy to Less Shy

A topic close to home......

I'm your typical Extrovert trapped in an Introverts Body. Sounds like an Oxymoron? My whole life is an Oxymoron! Ok, enough of feeling sorry for myself, let's talk shy.

I'm super duper shy in a public setting. No really, like face turning fuschia pink shy.It's a horrible feeling and is often quite uncomfortable. So, here's what I did/do to kick Shy's Ass!

10 Steps to Kick Shy's Ass

1.) Own it Baby!
You are the boss of yourself. Stand up straight, puff out your chest (or not) and be Proud of who You Are!

2.) Make eye Contact!
I know, I know, this one is super tough. I find that by avoiding eye contact, people tend to think that you're a snob. Looking people in the eye shows confidence, or maybe you are a snob.... and that's ok!

3.) Say "Hello"!
Try this randomly on people you encounter. They will either look at you like you're insane, or greet you back with the same. It's a 50/50 chance.

4.) Self Talk
I don't mean rambling out loud to yourself like a mad Man/Woman/Lady Gaga (Gaga is in a Category of her own). I mean, talk it over in your head. Remind yourself to take chances.

5.) Talk to Strangers!
You're an adult now, you don't have to listen to your parents nagging voice in your ear "Don't talk to strangers". Strike up a random conversation every now and again. If the conversation completely flops, you will not likely see them again in your travels. Unless you meet at the same spot, everyday, at the same time...than you're screwed. Choose your strangers wisely.

6.) Be Polite!
ALWAYS hold the doors for people! This is not only polite, but it also makes you approachable.

7.) Smile Damn You!
I used to Loathe smiling for no reason. I always worried that it looked forced and fake. Now, I could care less. I smile just to see if I get a smile in return :)

8.) Breathe!
When you start to feel yourself getting nervous, take a moment and breathe! Your brain will be grateful for the Oxygen.

9.) Don't be over the top
Don't do more than you can handle. Telling jokes to random strangers may scare some of them off. Actually, it would be kind of funny. Give me a call if you do this ;)

10.) Be Brave!
You're the Man/Woman/Lady Gaga and You Kick Ass! It's all mind over matter Baby!

So, these are my tips to overcome shyness. It's not a guaranteed formula but it works for me. Feel free to let me know if you give it a try, I love to have feedback on my Ramblings.

Good Luck,

And may the Force be with You!

Cheers,

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